. . . Caden has a girlfriend!
To the mother's out there I am sure, at some time or another, you have had the same feelings I am experiencing right now. Ever since my firstborn came into this world I have often thought of the day when the wonderful woman in his life (me!) would be replaced by another wonderful girl in his life. NO this is not an announcement of marriage - LOL but since he is turning 15 in a week - I knew the times would be a changing on the home front!
I started having continual discussions, at an early age with Caden, on how to treat girls when the time came that he might start to like them. I would usually get the eye roll, a sigh and an "ewwww Mom". If Dustin was home he would chime in with his Dad insights. Dad's thoughts are always a good thing but I wanted to make sure Caden heard the discussion from a woman's point of view.
When he started 7th grade two years ago, I took a deep breath and came to terms with the fact that the interest in girls would raise a level. I kept having the discussions with him and this time the reactions were different. He would mention a girl he thought was cute but then it would be a different girl a few weeks later. He would tell me that the girls were just friends and he promised me that he would tell me if things were ever to change.
Things changed last week! Caden told me, with a laugh, he had a girlfriend. Since I had prepared myself for this day to come my reaction was not only with happiness for him but I had a proud moment for myself because he had actually came to me and confided that to me - even before he told his dad! He was a little hesitant though to answer the questions we asked him - what was her name? what did she look like? Does he have classes with her? etc. He knew he would probably get some teasing from his dad. We pretty much received the standard one word answers that usually come from 14 year old boys.
Of course, the discussions will still go on as he gets older. I am sure more girls will go in and out of his life as he deals with this next chapter in his life. As always, I will try to deal with my ever roller coaster of motherly emotions but I will forever be there for him if needs me.
Now, I just have to meet her :)
Wow! What a big moment! I can't imagine that with Max! Alan has made a deal with him that if he doesn't kiss a girl until he is out of high school he'll give him $1000. Max is convinced CONVINCED that he has an easy $1000 coming to him. Alan told him that there is no way he'll get through high school without kissing a girl. He's much too handsome! Max just rolls his eyes.
ReplyDeleteOh my!!! Can't wait to hear how that first meeting goes. Best advice I've heard lately is to teach boys to not get too serious with one girl. I've even heard some parents say that their son isn't allowed to take the same girl to multiple dances. I thought that sounded weird at first, but maybe it would help them have more fun and not get in a serious long term relationship at such a young age. But what would you and I know about that, huh?
ReplyDeleteWendy - I think Max will have a hard time with that bet when he gets older! He is too handsome and the girls will be eyeing him big time! :)
ReplyDeleteBrooke - I totally agree! We have told him and Carlin to not get too serious with anyone. I think we have covered about every subject there is! Finish high school, Go to college, start your career, be independent, no marriage until your at least 25 - LOL! etc. etc.
ReplyDeleteYes, we don't have any room to preach but we are definately lucky to have found the "one"! It is hard for a lot of people to say that lately. I just hope our kids are lucky enough to find the right person when the time is right. Your day will come too with your boys but you will have it twice! :)